I have mentioned on here before how I used to be tremendously shy – in a way I still am, but certainly not as much as before. I started blogging when I was a freshman in college and not only has it served as a creative outlet, but it also acted as a surprise confidence booster. You might find it hard to believe that someone who constantly takes photos of him or herself is not inherently outgoing.

Confidence Didn’t Appear Right Away

The inception of my blog, Enclothed Cognition, was shrouded in an air of mystery as I pretty much kept it hidden from my friends and family because I felt uncomfortable at the idea of anyone reading my words or looking at my “silly” outfit photos. I kept blogging because it was something I really enjoyed and as I look back, it was nonsensical for me to not want to share something I am so passionate about.

Taking photos in this early stage was very awkward for me. I did not want my parents to see, so I had to set up my camera when they were not home. Plus, all of the photos tended to make me cringe when I reviewed them. I remember cropping my face out of most photos. Yet, I kept shooting and playing with different angles, looks and locations. The more I shot myself, the more my confidence slowly kept building as I started to learn what worked for me.

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Enclothed Cognition


As I got more involved in the growing blogging community, I started meeting really amazing people and formed these “online friendships”, especially with other users on Instagram. It can be quite challenging and competitive trying to stand out on Instagram, a platform with so many others trying to make it as a successful blogger. Yet, I managed to meet so many sweet, loving girls who are so uplifting in their comments. Do not take it the wrong way, I am not feeding off of the attention, but off the connections I have managed to find through blogging. A lot of these digital friendships and the support that comes with it has definitely increased my confidence in a good way. Many of these people I have met up with and there are so many more I want to meet in person!

Lastly, blogging has helped my confidence the most because it opened my eyes to my passions and what I am good at. It took me the longest time to figure out what I wanted to do with my life and I had no idea what I wanted to do career wise. I had no significant hobbies or interests, but blogging changed everything and really solidified my desire to pursue the fashion industry. This alone has given me the most confidence because it gave me a sense of direction. I realize this last reason is pretty specific to me, but I am sure that someone else has discovered their passions either by blogging or reading a blog that sparked a passion.

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I will be the first to admit that I get burnt out from blogging from time to time but ultimately, I think I am here to stay for a while. My blog has opened up so many relationships and opportunities for me and I owe a lot of my self-confidence to it.  In some strange way, taking photos of myself has lowered my insecurity and has made me feel more confident in my looks, while the actual act of blogging has increased my confidence in my ability to create something and to point me in the right direction to my future.

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December 7, 2017


It’s awesome that you are hanging in there with the blog. When I first started my blog a couple of years ago I told no one about it but my family because I was scared that people would make fun of me. Now I;m open about it with other people because I became more comfortable with it over time, and now a whole lot of other people read it.

Exactly!! I can relate so much to this. So glad we both found the confidence to share our blogs to the people that matter most!

That’s such a tough question! I guess if I had to classify it, it would be “Timeless street style”?? LOL I honestly don’t know but it is 1:30 AM as I write this…

Most of the people around don’t know about blogging and when you tell then that you are a blogger then they give you a very strange look. When I started blogging I was also not sure about what will happen in future but now I too feel confident and happy as a blogger. I am really happy that you are now confident and happy 🙂 Keep smiling 🙂
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Beauty and Fashion Freaks

I agree so much! Love how you said, “you feel confident and happy as a blogger”. That’s how you know you’re doing something worthwhile. Keep it up!

I get burnt out from time to time too, but it’s so awesome returning to your passion and falling in love with it again! And I definitely think blogging is one of those magical things that can bring out the best qualities in people, including confidence. Lovely post, so positive and inspiring!

Anika | anikamay.co.uk

I couldn’t relate any further! I was thinking about starting a blog for the past 3 years, but I just couldn’t help but think what would other people think and how am I suppose to take pictures outside without ppl looking at me awkwardly. I can finally say I really don’t care anymore or at least not as much. Blogging is such a great experience for me and I truly enjoy it. It is a bit overwhelming from time to time, but I feel very passionate about it. It also helps me with anxiety and PTSD. I’m also here to stay! So, you go girl!

x Mariya


Definitely agree, Mariya! Sounds like it took a lot for both of us to step out of our comfort zone, but I am so glad we did it. Cheers!

I related with you, that when I first started I hated so much how I looked that I cropped my face out of almost every photo. And I also kept it from my friends (not to mention that even thought my family knew about it, I felt super embarrassed when they saw pictures in front of me). But I also loved it so much that I continue posting. Now everyone know about my blog and most of my friends offer to take pics of me (Which when I first started only my sister could do, because she was the only one I could feel confident enough). Im so happy I continued posting. Look where I am know, super confident about sharing my blog!


Awww we have had similar stories then, dear. So glad your confidence grew and now you feel comfortable in sharing all the hard work you put into your blog <3

Really enjoyed reading this Keri, because I can totally relate (I happened to talk about similar topic on my blog this week)! Blogging is a great confidence booster despite the hard work and the occasional burnout. Feeling more comfortable in front of a camera and able to express one’s opinions freely is very liberating. I love your blog and your style, so keep up the good work girl! Xx

Saida | She talks Glam

This is such a motivating post dear and I can relate to blogging can be stressful at times but we’ve all built great relationships on here and have been opened to new opportunities and also the most important is that we’ve all gained self confidence through it. Thanks for sharing dear.

Bernie, xx
The Style Fanatic

This is such a lovely post and good to hear that blogging helps you to find confidence! I have to admit, blogging also helped me to boost more confidence in the way how I feel, how I express my personal style. Love your outfit btw! Happy Monday! Vivian x


I feel ya! I’m quite shy too and I used to never tell anyone about my blog in real life for the same reasons you mentioned – I was afraid people would think I was silly or even vain. I’ve been much more confident about my blogging hobby lately and not only is it because of my blog, it’s because of the community of bloggers I’ve met, like you!

I only recently discovered your blog but I’m glad I did! It seems like you’ve come a very long way. I can relate to a lot of this, I know what you mean about the connections. And I’m still a bit shy about telling people about my blog, my friends bring it up way more than I do lol. Love your outfit too!

I’m totally with you, hun! I used to be so shy and turning my blog into my job forced me to have to speak to people, meet PRs, I used to be sooo ervous before meeting anyone but now I’m super confident! I’m so happy to read you feel the same way, it’s amazing!!

Love from London,


Aw yay Keri!!!! It makes me so happy to hear that blogging has improved your confidence, I think its such an amazing thing when you find something that you’re passionate about and it really helps you evolve and grow as a person. SO much love for you babe!
x Rubi
Pose & Repeat

We stayed for 2 nights at Seda Nuvali and it was really the perfect place to stay in for our weekend vacation. It’s situated at a great location; just near all the places we visited. Not to mention, they even offer free shuttle services to nearby places like Solenad, where the fish feeding and boating area were.

We stayed for 2 nights at Seda Nuvali and it was really the perfect place to stay in for our weekend wewer vacation. It’s situated at a great location; just near all the places we visited. Not to mention, they even offer free shuttle services to nearby places like Solenad, where the fish feeding and boating area were.

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