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The Struggle of Being an Introvert in Your Early 20s

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Have you ever taken a personality quiz? If not, I highly suggest you take a couple of minutes to do the one offered on 16Personalities. When I took it about a year or two ago, I was absolutely shocked at how accurate the results were. To the point, where I felt like the quiz knew more about me than I did myself…Basically, it defined me as an introvert or an INFJ personality type:

“…Their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days” (16personalities.com).

Honestly, when I read this everything started to make sense to me. I am a very independent person with a select few close friends and although I love them dearly, sometimes the thought of hanging out with one of them stressed me out. I would agree to plans, but immediately regret my decision because I was not sure if I was going to have the energy to do so later on. I realize now I am seriously the definition of introvert!

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Let’s be clear, this has absolutely nothing to do with my friends and it is specifically a personal “issue”. Yet, I have been struggling with this inner social battle the entirety of my life and it became even more apparent as I entered my 20s and was in the midst of my college years.

When I was living at school, all of my friends and peers were constantly going out at night – sometimes from Thursday through Saturday night. At first, I tried my best to keep up with the incessant small talk and social drinking, but it started to take a toll on me as I realized I was starting to dread weekends in general because it came with making plans and coordinating with friends. Clearly, this was an issue.

It might be ludicrous to some of you to hear that a simple personality test opened my eyes to who I am, but it is true! The results of this quiz defined my social tendencies and prescribed it an actual name. It helped me realize this is just who I innately am and I am not alone (although according to 16personaltiies.com, INFJ’s make up less than 1% of the population)!

As an INFJ, talking to people can be physically draining for me. Hence, why I feel the need to take a night to be with myself and to regain this lost energy. I think a lot of introverts can relate to this feeling of social exhaustion. If this is the case, you should never push yourself to do more than you can handle like I did. I honestly think it can lead to feeling burnt out or even resentful to yourself or your friends.

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Ultimately, I stopped going out as much and managed to find a nice balance of spending the night curled up in bed with a good movie and hanging out with my friends. So why am I bothering to share this self-discovery? I wanted to tell my experience of growing up as a young adult for anyone else who finds themselves to be ashamed of their introvertedness. Sometimes you feel left out or as if something is wrong with you simply because you do not see the merit in partying every weekend. I wanted to let these people know that it is okay not wanting to be the stereotypical young adult who socializes every second of the day. Sometimes preferring to stay in by yourself is exactly what you need.

Is anyone else a fellow INFJ? If not, what’s your personality type?

75 thoughts on “The Struggle of Being an Introvert in Your Early 20s

  1. Did some of the popular quiz in my 20s but never found myself in. Looks like I am not so easy to read!

    1. Wow, you should try it out again! I’m curious to see what results you would get!

  2. wow amazing outfit
    love your boots so much
    kiss

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    1. Thank you, Jennifer!

  3. Don’t worry about it too much girl there is a lot of introverts out there! I also love that outfit.
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    1. You’re right 🙂 I’ve come to terms with it now!

  4. I’ve never done one of these, I need to try! And loving those boots <3
    Green Fashionista

    1. You really should! It’s quite eye opening 🙂

  5. Introverts are deep thinkers!…I think it’s all about finding the right people who understand your rechargeable needs! I feel this way as well and I’m cool with it!

    -L.
    LenaRevealed.com

    1. Definitely!! You hit the nail on the head

    1. Thanks, babe!

  6. I feel you with every single word!!! I’m an INFJ too and it honestly does get exhausting making plans and going out to interact with people, even if it’s with my closest friends!

    1. It really does, babe! I know exactly what you mean!

    1. Thanks so much!

  7. Thanks for sharing your info. I really appreciate your efforts and I will be waiting for your further write ups thanks once again.
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  8. i’m also an introvent! INFJ. While there are some disadvantages we are also deep thinkingers!
    Love the denim
    xx
    Lizzie | Takeoffs & Landings

    1. Ayyy, fellow INFJ! We definitely are deep thinkers 🙂 Thanks so much for reading!

  9. Having a great lifestyle to me is all about balance, we all need those couch, chilled days where we do nothing and then some productive days and other outing days. I used to be so shy, but blogging has definitely helped me become an extrovert as I was forced to talk to everyone and being the new kid on the block (from another country) forced me to talk as otherwise I would end up with no friends. It is said necessity is the mother of invention! What do you tink?

    Love from London,
    Whit

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    1. This is so interesting! I am sure coming from another country makes it even harder to cope. Sounds like you’re doing great though! And blogging has definitely allowed me to open up and be more outgoing 🙂

  10. This post is true of my college years also. Its hard being an introvert!

    Missy
    TheFashionFusion

    1. It’s definitely a struggle sometimes!! Hoping it has gotten easier for you 🙂

  11. I find myself in every single word of this. So happy to have found this article! I am totally struggling with my introvertedness and it’s so nice to know that I am not alone.

    xo Corina
    http://www.unbouquetdamour.com

    1. You are definitely not alone, Corina! It’s just a matter of accepting this is how you’re built and being okay with it 🙂 Cheers to my fellow, introvert!

  12. Thanks for sharing this info, I also love your boots !

    Nina
    xox
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    1. Thanks so much!

  13. I took the personality test a while ago and I forgot which one I am but I am on the introverted side too! I’ve learned to embrace and go with what makes me happy! Sounds like you are doing the same!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

    1. Definitely! Thanks for reading, babe 🙂

    1. Thank you so much!

    1. Thanks, Christina!

  14. I see myself as an introvert completely despite the test that gave me an extrovert score. This was a few years ago… It might be interesting to see the shift now if I took the test again.

    Thanks for sharing!

    xo Jamie

    http://jamieonthings.com/

    1. Hmm definitely would be interesting. You should take it when you have time!

  15. I so understand the struggle! I am the type of person who always thinks ,after accepting an invitation out if, I should’ve said no and stayed in bed! It’s a blessing when you have understanding friends!

    Xoxo,Khloe
    http://www.khloelo.com/3-tips-on-how-to-be-a-shopaholic/

    1. Most definitely!!

  16. So heart felt! Love this one and thank you for sharing! You look soo chic!

    xxx

    Ashley

    http://www.missgunner.com

    1. Aww so sweet. Thank you, Ashley <3

  17. I feel you sooooo much with every single thing you said!!
    By the way love those denim jeans and the whole look

    xo | Cindy Elena
    http://www.boringclothes.com

    1. Glad you could relate, Cindy! Thanks so much for reading!

  18. I have not taken this personality quiz but it sounds very enlightening. It also sounds as though it was very helpful for you. Being an introvert is a good thing and that makes you more sensitive to others. I also think that there are so many young people who socialize too much and unfortunately that also includes drinking a lot. I think this is actually a good kind of personality to have in this context.

    Also I have found that as I age I have become more and more outgoing . I am almost 60. . Please understand that personality is a changing thing. As you age I think you will become more confident. I’m very pleased that you have found some balance and you seem very insightful, beyond your years. And yes you look so beautiful here !

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Elle
    https://theellediaries.com/

    1. Couldn’t agree with you more! Thanks so much for the encouraging words, Elle 🙂 Xoxo

  19. Totally agree with you dear. I have a select few close friends as well, and I dont really hang with people outside of my own circle.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

    1. Glad I am not alone 🙂

  20. I am definitely taking the quiz for curiosity. You just have to try and always try until you get comfortable. Beautiful post babe.

    StyleSprinter Blog by Katya Bychkova

    1. So sweet. Thank you, Katya!

  21. love this look!!
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    1. Thanks, girl!

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  25. I’m INFP! Deffo has its setbacks, but overall it’s all good 🙂 Love ur look girl!
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  26. Beautiful post!
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    It is ok to not be ok, and social media is not that perfect paradise that everybody tries to sell us!
    Thanks for sharing with us,
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  40. I love taking personality quizzes! I got an ESTJ which I agree with for the most part, although sometimes I think I am more introverted than extroverted! It really depends on the day and event.

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  41. I’m an INFJ, too! So I definitely understand how you feel. But I’ve learned to embrace it, and I think blogging has played a huge role in that.

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