My Perfect Imperfections

At a young 22 years old, I am blessed to say I feel pretty comfortable in my own skin…for the most part. On some days, I wake up and look into the mirror and am sort of disappointed at what I see. On these days, I am particularly crestfallen and self-conscious. A low self-esteem can really take a toll on my mental health for the day – and this only happens every so often. I cannot even begin to imagine the physical and mental impact this can have on individuals going through self-harming disorders such as depression or anorexia.

Andrea started the “My Perfect Imperfections” tag on YouTube years ago and some of my favorite content creators, Jenn Im and Sophia Chang, have recently revisited it on their own respective channels. These have inspired me to bring it to the blogging world and I thought it would also be the perfect first post to kick off the rebranding of my blog, Enclothed Cognition.

Basically, the Perfect Imperfections tag involves you sharing three things you dislike about yourself and three things you absolutely adore about yourself. These could be both physical and nonphysical traits.

What I Dislike About Myself…

  1. My lips (especially when I smile). This is one of those nitpicky things where I feel like I notice it a lot more than other people. When I smile, the upper left portion of my lip stretches out a lot more than the right, making them look so uneven. I realized I would always subconsciously put my hand up to my face when I take selfies because it sort of hides this fact. This physical trait really affects me because although I hate my lips, I absolutely love to smile. On days when I am especially apparent of it, I love to blast J. Cole’s “Crooked Smile” and try my best not to let it bother me!
  2. My pushover tendencies. I am sure when most people describe me they will say two things: I am on the quiet side and I am so sweet. I am okay with this! However, in a way, I feel like it is my downfall. I feel like I was born to please others and I hate disappointing or letting anyone down, which is why people see me as so nice and considerate. Yet, because of this, I feel like I am sometimes taken advantage of. A lot of times I wish I was more inclined to be stronger and less afraid to share what I am really feeling. I still need to teach myself that it really is okay to say “no”.
  3. My birthmark. I have mentioned this before, but I have this rather large diagonal birthmark on my ribcage. When I was a teen, I was quite subconscious about this mark when I wore bathing suits. I hated it! As I grew older though, it started to bother me a little less. I realized it is just a part of who I am and what makes me unique.
Photo by Sophie

What I Like About Myself…

    1. My hair. One of my parent’s friends told them that if a baby has hair sticking straight up, it means they are going to have gorgeous hair. Sure enough, when my parents met me at the airport (I was adopted), my hair was sticking straight up in the air. When you think of Asian hair, you often think thin and pin-straight. I rather like my hair because it is quite thick and has a natural wave to it. To treat my hair, I apply oil to the ends of my hair after every shower. These are the products I am currently currently using to soften my hair and prevent damage: 
  1. My kindness. This is a trait with a double edged sword since it is closely related with the aforementioned trait – my pushover tendencies. However, I also pride myself on this personality trait. I really try to be kind to everyone I meet. I think kindness is something that society has been greatly lacking the past couple of years.
  2. My body. This was one of the harder things for me to fully accept because I used to be self-conscious of my body since I thought it was so 1-Dimensional. People used to poke my body and exclaim how I need to “eat a hamburger ASAP” and remark how I am all “skin and bone”. As you can tell, I am a full time member of the IBTC and pretty much the opposite body type of Kim Kardashian in every single way. Haha! Yet, I love my body more than I ever have. I have been regularly working out for the past 2 years and the hard work is really starting to pay off. I love my body because I feel healthy.

Your turn!

The Perfect Imperfections tag is such a great exercise for everyone to do. I tag anyone who wants to take this challenge. Becoming aware of the things you do and do not like about yourself is enlightening and is a form of self-discovery because it makes you sit down and really think about it.

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If you feel comfortable, leave a comment below sharing one thing you dislike about yourself and one thing you love about yourself. I would love to hear it!

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19 Replies to “My Perfect Imperfections”

  1. You’re such a beautiful soul Keri! I’m so glad that we can be friends although we have never met (lol) and despite that we live on opposite parts of the world!
    One thing I dislike about myself is my social anxiety, it can get so ridiculous sometimes but now I am working on feeling more comfortable in social situations by talking to more people and I’ve also signed up to improv classes (eep!).
    One thing I love about myself is my ambition. I have always been super ambitious, writing down my goals and making elaborate plans for my life. The people crazy enough to believe that they can change the world are the ones who do right?! That’s my mantra!
    xxxx Rubi

  2. I loved reading this post of yours, it was so insightful. I felt like I was sitting right next to you and listening to you. I love this idea of perfect imperfections tag. But honestly I need to work on loving myself first, cos right now I seriously have nothing coming to my mind when you ask me what I love about myself. Umm if I think hard enough I guess that I sometimes I keep trying.. I guess that? Among a lot of things I hate about myself I guess I hate my low self esteem and my inability to love myself the most. But I hoping I get better at this and have something to share on things I love about myself someday 🙂

    xx
    http://realgirltalks.com/

  3. “I feel like I was born to please others and I hate disappointing or letting anyone down, which is why people see me as so nice and considerate”

    I could definitely relate with this one dear. I want to be super nice with almost everybody, which is why, sometimes, I feel like people take advantage of me. And yes, I need to teach myself to say “NO” more often.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.comJessica

  4. I don’t mind being nice. What don’t like is for people to take advantage of my ‘nice-ness’ and then I have to curve my ‘nice-ness’ just to be sure. But that leads to walls… so yea. With that said I dislike my over-thinking. But I love my sense of humor!

    -L.
    LenaRevealed.com

  5. Love this thoughtful and timely post. Will be happy to tag it later when I am home. Self esteem is a fragile thing and media outlets seem to be at war with the female psyche. Embrace your beauty and continue the positive feedback loop of kindness. 💮💮💮 Elle
    https://theellediaries.com

  6. This is such a sweet post and a lovely tag to have! It’s so easy to be critical of ourselves and look down on ourselves but we are who we are and we should learn to embrace it!

    At times I am annoyed with how weak my body is – I have an abdominal injury post-baby and it looks a bit funny in clothes sometimes and gets me down. But it’s also one of the things I love about my body, I not only have my two beautiful sons, I have forever been changed physically by becoming their mum 🙂 I do need to improve the muscles though, it’s been giving me a lot of pain lately, ha!

    Hope you had a great weekend 🙂 We went to a theme park, a nice way to relax after a stressful sick-filled week!

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